How to win your crush’s heart (2024)

If you clicked on this hoping to learn how to make someone like you back, you’re in the right place.

Because you can’t.

You can’t change how people feel about you. You can’t force someone to develop feelings for you.

Hearts aren’t meant to be “won” or “stolen.” It’s not a competition. Nor is it a game.

There are, however, things you can work on yourself to change how others treat or think of you.

It comes with a lot of self-care, maturity, and personal development.

Wanna know how to become more attractive and increase the likelihood that people will eventually like you back?

Here’s how:

If you try to be someone you’re not, you’re gonna make yourself miserable. It’s essentially a form of deception, and the last thing you want to do is be disingenuous. If being yourself means you’re gonna be rude and inconsiderate and have fewer friends, then you can A) accept that and appreciate the people who stick around or B) change parts of your personality that you don’t like by improving your character. Focus less on living up to other people’s expectations and more on living up to your own.

Do you like what you see? If not, change it. And I don’t mean through plastic surgery. I’m saying that if you don’t like the way you look, try changing some of your habits and behaviors. The definition of insanity is changing nothing and expecting things to change.

If you want to lose weight, try portion control. Try healthier alternatives to your diet. Try walking around more and passing up on cars and buses.

And if you do like the way you look, then you’re in a much better place than I am. Embrace yourself.

Because sometimes, no one else will. If you ask for help, you may find that you’ll receive it. More so than if you never asked for help in the first place. So learn to communicate your needs to the people around you.

Know that you have your own limits. Be firm about them. And tell others who try to toe the line when their behavior is unacceptable. If they’re the right people, they’ll understand and respect your boundaries. I’ve been walked all over in the past, but I’ve learned to prioritize my own sense of well-being.

Self-explanatory. One of the biggest turn-offs is arrogance. It often comes across as projecting insecurities and placing a lot of self-worth in personal achievements or accomplishments. Get over yourself. Don’t let your ego get in the way. (I’m working on this, too.)

Consider other people’s perspectives. They’re entitled to their own opinions. Disagree with their ideas; attack arguments, not character. You don’t always have to one-up whoever you’re talking to. Take the time to listen. And then contribute what you have to say. You’re entitled to your own opinion, too.

And if you want tips based on psychology to get people to like you more, I’ve got a few more.

• Really get to know them for who they are. Take the time and effort to build a strong relationship based on trust and reliability. By befriending them, you’re setting a sturdy foundation on which you can build a romantic relationship.
• Increase chances to hang out with them. Make time for them. It’s been said that people who are more frequently exposed to each other will find them more physically attractive or likable over time.
• Confess your feelings. Sometimes, people will develop feelings for you in return over time. If not, then move on. It ain’t gonna happen if it ain’t gonna happen.

What I’m trying to say in all this is that romance doesn’t have to be a zero-sum game. It’s not like people are competing against each other to “win” someone’s heart. That’s not how it works.

These things best happen organically. Forcing feelings won’t get you anywhere, nor does it work out well.

So focus on the things you can change and control: your own thoughts, actions, and behaviors. Trust that you’re enough as you are.

Ironically enough, you may find that the less you try to fit others’ expectations, the more you’ll surprise the people around you. And yourself, too.

Just remember: before you enter a relationship with anyone else, you gotta make sure you have a healthy relationship with yourself. :)

Trust that things will follow in their own time.